How Wonderful to be a Wise Mother (By: Fatmi Amro, M.Pd)

" How wonderful to be a wise mother”  I am referring this article to all women not just a woman who gave birth to a child but also to a woman who has a love for a child. Because for me, a mother who can not bear children is also able to educate and raise with love even though not born from her own womb.

These are some of my most important moments. These are the several phases in which I am so grateful that as a parent, not only is it obliged to see it grow with its own eyes but accompany it grows accompanied by the heart, so that we not only see it but also understand it.

Sometimes we have to be conscious, they grow and become themselves. There are times when they do not always equate opinions with us. There are times when we have to decide a decision that may be beyond our expectations. According to our true, not necessarily according to them true or not right. The development of science and technology make us have to play a role how we take action so that we do not get distance with our child. We are friends and parents who are not feared but menyeganutinya

I will introduce myself. I'm a mother, 43th. Has three children. One woman and two men. The oldest is now seventeen. The number two men entering the age of 14 years. And my younger brother was seven years old. My husband works in a local water company in one of the districts of West Sumatra, but not in my city.

Since I have three children of different ages, the story of my experience varies. But I will share this experience for all mothers in the world.

Once when my friend asked how it feels to be a mother who will his children leave for adults ....

There are some things that I think that being a mother is beautiful.

1.  I am a mother and also have a profession as a teacher in high school. Although I'm a teacher does not mean I'm good at educating children. In reality it is not entirely so. Children love their parents so much, I feel. But the problem of making a decision, they are more likely to follow what their teachers say in school. For example, they have a homework. Then he asked me. My answer as a teacher in charge of the question he asked it was right. But if there is little difference with the answer in school then they more follow the word of the teacher. Though what my teacher sometimes said was not right for me. And at that moment I had to give up a little, because I placed her as a mother but not a decision maker related to the outcome of her duties. This experience I once told a friend of mine with me, it turns out he also experienced the same thing. My mom is my mother. My teacher is my teacher. Although my mother is a teacher as well.

2. Children grow by having their own thoughts. My eldest daughter. As a firstborn I feel I have a great influence on its development. He grew up with a good religious upbringing and I modeled him for what I did. Like for example, I like to dress up, I love to follow the development of the model, I like sports, aerobics, gymnastics and body scrubs. In the beginning of his growth, he follows what I do but as he grows and develops, he can no longer follow the habits I teach. He already has his own world, his own thoughts. For example, he is more likely to appear simple and has his own activities.

To me, it does not matter because the activity is positive. I can not make it as myself. He has grown into himself. Things that naturally happen. But what I realize is that a custom that I find interesting does not necessarily appeal to others or sometimes does not last long for others even if it is against a child of his own, even though it has been familiarized from small. They do not say the habits he received as a child are ugly or I do not like but are not a priority for him anymore. He chose a new habit that he found attractive to him. I accept the change.

My mother's habits are not necessarily my habit.

3. As a mother, I certainly plan the best things for the children in the future. While they were small, parents had prepared things for their happiness. One of them is a pleasant dwelling. While they are small, parents tend to build houses not only habitable but also often renovated to the extent possible, even be a treasure for them. Many parents choose to save and spend money on building a house then renovating it, and renovating it. So a beautiful home and comfortable to make children feel at home in it. That thought will gradually change. Children start enjoying the outdoors instead of spending time off at home.

For example I've experienced. I have saved some money to renovate the house. When the holiday arrived, I talked with my husband in the living room. The children heard of our plans. Then they suggest what if for a walk. We chose their suggestions. Apparently they gave us a warm hug.

The house is a comfortable place to live in, but God's earth is vast, what's wrong with us also visiting and enjoying it even if only in a few days or just a stopover. The house is heaven but it does not mean the house should be like a palace. Their hugs assured me that the decision we made was the best. Again, so beautiful being a mother.

4. Once my son will follow the karate race. All teams are released by the mayor. Parents of athletes may take off. Because at that time I was in office hours, so I took time to take it off to the office of City Hall with still dressed in clothing. Then immediately I was visited by my son, then he whispered .... mother I want you not to wear this dress. I see you do not look pretty I want you to replace it home and dress up regularly. I was amazed, but because the word was not pretty pushed me to go home, he begged, then I changed home. After that, I went back inside. He saw me he said with this dress you not only look beautiful, but like mine does not belong to the government.

5. Once I accompanied my youngest son to the coloring contest. Some instructions have been given. The colors are suitable for some objects. Then, my son showed me the picture of what he would color. I read the instructions. He frowned at his keninng. Then he started doing his job. Before I start I tell him you can. I'm not saying he should win.

At the time of collecting I could see what he made. I smile. Seeing the color of the water gave red instead of the blue like the instructions of the teacher. Mother .... the sea water. I think it's red because I've heard stories from the mother about the red sea instead of the blue sea .....

This time I feel like winning from your teacher, son.

Those are some events that are not just events. He will carry them throughout life. I'm sure all mothers in this world have a wonderful experience too. Because all mothers are the beauty itself ......